The Virtuous Wife Series: In Depth Study: Day 1

Introduction 

The bible is the guide to being a good wife. I firmly believe that every woman who feels uneasy about the biblical teachings on being a wife, lacks a good understanding of the teachings and has not read in depth about being a wife. The bible literally gives men and women a guide to having a perfect marriage, but we make it hard by not applying the principles. A man at my church says, "Every argument between a husband and wife comes from one or both of them not being in line with what God says in his word!"

Ephesians 5

"22 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.

25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26 to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.[a] 27 He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. 28 In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. 29 No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church."

Submit

Today, I am going to start with the controversy. Submit, which evokes thoughts of the 50's, a door mat, or even a backless woman.  The definition of submit is to accept or yield to the authority or will of another person. Submission is a choice, it is honorable, pleasing, and rewarding. Some people look at submission as weak, but it actually takes more strength to submit, than to do as you please all of the time. Submission is a choice, because no one is forcing you. You have free will, so God isn't going to force you to submit, and your husband can't force you. Submitting doesn't mean you don't have an opinion. A good biblical loving husband cares about your opinion and wants to please you. He should always consider what you have to say, but in the end go where God is leading him. The submission comes in when he disagrees with you and does the opposite of what you feel is correct.  How will you respond? Will you ignore him, will you chastise him, when he's wrong will you say I told you so, will you be sarcastic, will you be mean, will you go and gossip to all your friends or will you say okay babe, if that's where God is leading you, then I am with you 100%?

But Why?

Why Submit, when you can probably do everything better?  ;) lol 

The first reason is, because it pleases God. Secondly, your marriage will flourish. Thirdly God established a proper order of things for our own good. God created man and woman, don't you think he knows what we need to have success in all aspects of life. It is supposed to be man getting his direction by submitting to God, and woman submitting to God and because, she is submitting to God, she submits to her husband.  Submission is so much bigger than obedience to your husband, it is really obedience to God. By submitting to your husband , you are saying I am placing my faith in you God, and my obedience to you will bless my life and our marriage. God has given us the recipe to a good marriage. He knows his creations. Men thrive on respect, and feeling needed. Woman thrive on love, and feeling desired. It just shows how God really knows us, because He commanded each spouse to do what the other needs. Submission doesn't feel good, when your husband isn't under the leadership of God. That is why it is vital to choose a man who is in tune with God before you get married. Don't marry a man, you don't see yourself submitting to. Doing so, will only cause problems in the future. Your husband under the leadership of God, will have your best interest at heart, nothing he asks you to do is against the bible, and if it all goes wrong (lol), he will be held accountable. (poor Adam). Will you trust God to lead your husband today? Will you trust that God knows you and your husband better than you do? God has your best interest in mind, he wants your marriage to bring more people to him. By butting heads with your husband and undermining his authority, you need to understand you are really disobeying God.

Kill, Steal, Destroy

The devil is succeeding, because the divorce rate is high, even among Christians. Satan wants you to believe that submission is for the weak minded and it is old fashioned. He is distracting you from your purpose of pleasing God, and bringing people to him. God has made it, so you can have a joyous and happy marriage, but Satan has come to steal, kill, and destroy. Don't let Satan take your marriage by not following the most important guideline to a fruitful marriage. Obedience to God will lead to success in all aspects of your life.  

Isaiah 48:17-18Good News Translation (GNT)

17 

The holy God of Israel,

    the Lord who saves you, says:

“I am the Lord your God,

    the one who wants to teach you for your own good

    and direct you in the way you should go.

18 

“If only you had listened to my commands!

Then blessings would have flowed for you

    like a stream that never goes dry.

Victory would have come to you

    like the waves that roll on the shore.

Personal Message

This post is not just for you, but also for me. Submission is hard, especially when you feel like you know it all (lol) or you have operated a certain way for so long. I refuse to let Satan win in my marriage. Living your way has only gotten you so far. Will you try it God's way  with me?

Pray this with me.  God, I am ready to fully submit to you and in turn submit to my (future/present) husband. Give me the strength to take every though captive, so I can defend myself against the ploys of the devil. I pray that as you change me through this series, you work on my husband as well. Make us into the people you want us to be, so that we can be a light in this dark world.