Beneficial
The husband of a virtuous woman trust her 100%. He feels like he isn't missing anything that will benefit him. She greatly enriches his life. His wife benefits him spiritually, emotionally, and physically. She isn't a burden and he knows he wouldn't be better off without her.
In Genesis 2. God made Eve as a helpmeet to Adam. God saw it was not good for Adam to be alone. Basically, the brother needed help. (Lol) and every woman and man can attest to that. My husband tells me every now and then that if God wouldn't have sent me to him, he doesn't know where he'd be. This tells me two things that he values me and I add value to his life. I add to his life, not only on a grand scale, but on small scale. He confirms this when he sends me a picture of his burnt food while I'm at work and says I can never make it like you. You want your man to say things like this, so you know you are doing your job right.
He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord. (Proverbs 18:22 NIV)
How do you enrich your mans life? Or do you badger him and bring him down? Would he be better off without you? Can he say you are a good thing?
A husband can have confidence in his wife when she enriches his life . He trusts her and her abilities as wife. He isn't insecure and trying to guess what her next move is going to be. He doesn't have to second guess her motives.
His Welfare
A good wife is always concerned about the welfare of her husband. She approaches him in love, even in difficult situations. She treats him the way God wants him to be treated. Even when she feels he deserves evil, she is still good to him. A good wife doesn't hurt her husband, instead she loves him, encourages him, builds him and doesn't break him down.
A Woman's Influence
A woman has a lot of influence over her man. Think of Adam and Eve and how eve convinced her husband to partake in the fruit with her. She has the ability to make him or break him. He values her opinion over anyone else's. He needs his ego stroked and wants to feel needed and important. When you talk down to him and undermine his authority, then you are essentially deflating him. When you are angry it is much easier to go to your fleshly desires, sin, seek revenge, and go tit for tat. But as a new creature in Christ, your new default should be to love.
"Instead, clothe yourself with the presence of the Lord Jesus Christ. And don’t let yourself think about ways to indulge your evil desires."(Romans 13:14 NLT)
Stop playing your evil responses in your head. Stop wallowing in how he upset you and how you really want to get him back. Doing these things will only cause you to act out on your desires. It's way easier said than done. But you have a choice and God says,
"The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure." (1 Corinthians 10:13 NLT)
Personal Message
Every Time you choose to sin, you are choosing Satan. You are letting Satan get the victory over your relationship. He is on a mission to tear you apart, one argument at a time. He wants you to keep undermining your husband. He wants you to seek revenge when your husband upsets you. He wants you to go to bed angry and not talking, so your mind and his mind can wander. It is bigger than us. But God has equipped us with the tools to overcome. Our assignment is to Think before we act! Ask ourselves is this helpful? Is it necessary to say? Is it kind to say? And if it doesn't fit the criteria then throw it out!
Pray this today!
God, I pray that you convict me when I'm out of line. Help me to be a good wife, always bringing my husband good and not harm. God continue you to guide me where you want me to be. As you transform me, I ask that you transform my husband into who you want him to be!
Amen
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