The Virtuous Wife Series: Day 9: Influence of a Woman

"She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future." (Proverbs 31:25 NLT)

Define:

Clothed means to wear and to be covered with. In this scripture the virtuous woman is covered with strength and dignity. This means she carries it with her everywhere, in good and bad times, in adversity and when things are easy. 

Strength

The virtuous woman realizes what strength is. She knows that strength is not being the big bad wolf, who isn't going to take anything from anyone. Strength isn't over talking your dude and knowing how to shut him down. Strength is about self control. Strength is about controlling your tongue. Strength is about knowing what to say and how to say it (even when he needs some serious correction). Strength is about knowing when to be quiet and when to speak your mind. Strength is knowing the influence you have over your husband and using it properly. The virtuous woman is not a door mat, but she knows how to gracefully and lovingly assert herself. 

Personal

I can't lie sometimes I fall into the worlds idea of strength! I have come to realize that worldly strength, isn't strength at all. I mean honestly, how easy is it to run your mouth and shut someone down as opposed to being quiet or saying something with the proper attitude. It's much easier to mouth off to my husband, when I'm angry or irritated, than to be respectful. But greater is He that is in us than He that is in the world. So it is more than possible to do the right thing! 

Influence of a Woman

We as women sometimes don't realize the influence we have over the man in our life. You can choose to positively influence him or negatively influence him. You have the power to build him up, encourage transformation in his life, and affect the atmosphere in your home. Or you can break him down, encourage him in bad decision making, and make your home a hostile environment.  One of the wife's most important roles is to help her husband. She's not supposed to roll a blunt with him, encourage him to cheat to get ahead, or anything else that is anti God. 

Personal

My husband always tells other men, when a woman inspires you, that's when you know she's the one! Are you an inspiration or a discouragement? What are you motivating and sparking in your husband? I saw how creative and artistic my husband was and I encouraged my him to start performing his poetry. 

Biblical Examples

In the bible we have examples of positive influences as well as negative influences 

Eve was created for Adam to be his wife,to help him and to provide companionship. She had so much influence over her husband, that she sinned by eating the fruit and then convinced her husband that he should also indulge in sin. Eve's influence over her husband literally caused the fall of man. Like think about it, today one of the reasons we have disease, death, and destruction, is bc of a Eve's influence 

Queen Esther on the other hand, positively influenced her husband to save  the Jewish people from the potential holocaust at the hands of the Persian empire. Queen Esther exhibited strength, by knowing what to do to sway her husband and by trusting God to keep her and protect her in the process. 

Dignity 

Dignity is a quality meaning worthy of honor and respect. Worthy means deserving. The virtuous woman is deserving of honor and respect. She  not only wears strength, but she wears dignity as well. This means she carries herself in a such a way  that people respect her and honor her. She isn't out at all the functions getting turnt up. She isn't half naked posting pictures on Instagram trying to get likes. She isn't loud and boisterous craving attention wherever she goes. She doesn't need to demand or beg for respect. She carries herself in such a way that people naturally respect and honor her.  What kind of people do you attract? How do men treat you? How are you carrying yourself? 

She Laughs

The virtuous woman isn't afraid of the future. She knows God will provide for her every need and take excellent care of her and her family. She knows no matter what she faces (death, sickness, rebellion, etc), that God will strengthen her and bring her through. This is why she is able to still laugh and smile when everything is crumbling around her. 

The Virtuous Wife Series: Day 8: Happy Home

"Her husband is well known at the city gates, where he sits with the other civic leaders." (Proverbs 31:23 NLT)

A Godly Man 

The virtuous woman is a wonderful  woman and it is only fitting that she be married to a great man. The above scripture highlights that the virtuous woman has standards and expectations of the man she married. Her husband has qualities of a Godly man. The fact that he is well known means he is respected and has a good name.

 "And God says, "Choose a good reputation over great riches; being held in high esteem is better than silver or gold." (Proverbs 22:1 NLT)

The second part of the scripture says that he "sits" with the leaders. Sits implies that he knows, spends time with, works with. To be able to sit with civic leaders, her husband has to be worthy, he can't be lazy, but instead has to work hard. The virtuous woman ensured that her husband had certain qualities before she married him. The important qualities are that he loves God more than her. He is capable of sacrificially

loving her and putting her second only to God. He isn't lazy and understands his role of protect, provide, and lead! 

Now this isn't saying your husband/ future husband is perfect! It is saying that he is always striving to be better. Your man may not be where he should be yet (financially, spiritually, physically) but the important thing is he has ambition and is trying to improve. He should not be the same person and in the same position as 3 years ago. Don't discount a man, because he doesn't have a million dollars. He may have a millionaire vision and will get there eventually! So be patient, but don't be naive his actions do need to line up with his words and his vision. If he's sitting on the couch unemployed talking about he's going to be a millionaire one day, then run lol. But if he is making moves, working hard, following through, and always acquirring more knowledge then he can make it there one day.  

Personal Message

Honestly when I was 19 and got married, my only standards were that he has to go to church with me and he has to love me. I was naive and didn't know what to really look for. But I was wise enough to pray. Before I met Keonte, I prayed God would send me a sweet, loving, kind man that would treat me well. When Keonte and I started dating up until today I have prayed the same prayer "God please make Keonte into the man you want him to be!" And it's amazing how I didn't know what I needed, but God did! He answered and still answers my prayers! My husband is not the same person he was at 17, 19, 21 and God continually reforms him, making Keonte better each and everyday! 

A Happy Home

The fact that her husband is so successful at work, is indicative of a happy home life. He can go to work with a clear mind knowing everything at home is taken care of. His wife knows how to alleviate stress, so he is not under so much pressure. She doesn't tear him down at home. She builds him up at home so he can function properly at work.  A chaotic home wears and tears on any person.  Home is the basis for success, when the world tears you down, home is where you go to be built back up. You as a woman must decide each day if you will be a hinderance or an encouragement. 

Personal Message

My husband has told me when we get into a serious argument, it throws off his whole day. He isn't able to focus and be as productive as usual. His mind wanders back to the unresolved conflict and the atmosphere he will be walking back into when he comes home. So as a wife it is my job, to ensure that I submit to his leadership and let him know that just because of an argument my love for him won't change. I need to remember the fruits of the spirit and be in constant prayer when a difficulty arises.  

Prayer

Lord, thank you for the wisdom you give us through your word. Help me to use your word as a standard for my everyday living and interactions. God I want to be intentional in doing the right thing. Thank you for your love and your mercy. Amen

The Virtuous Wife Series: Day 7: Dress To Impress

"She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns." (Proverbs 31:22b NLT)

Misconception 

Sometimes people look at the scripture in 1 Peter 3 and automatically assume that a biblical wife has to look plain, worn, and boring. But what the scripture is saying is that a woman needs to be more than physical appearance. If that's all you have to offer then you really have nothing to offer, because outward beauty fades. Internal beauty lasts forever. 

"Your adornment must not be merely external-braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God." (1 Peter 3:3-4 NASB)

Inner Beauty Wins

The virtuous woman knows that the inner appearance is more important than the outward appearance, because how her heart looks is precious to God!  Beauty can give you immediate results, like a free meal, a baby, a job, a man for a night! But at the end of the day beauty doesn't raise any kids, beauty doesn't satisfy a man long term,  beauty doesn't keep the job, beauty can't do anything of lasting value, and most importantly beauty can't get you into heaven.

 "But the LORD said to Samuel, “Don’t judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The LORD doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7 NLT) 

 

Side Note:

Ladies stop going after men that have no sustenance! They may be tall, dark, and handsome, but have nothing going on the inside. You are trying to accept him and God has rejected him. 

Dress To Impress 

Now with all that being said, there is nothing wrong with being beautiful and dressing nicely! As a matter of fact it is encouraged, as long as that's not all you have to offer. The virtuous woman dresses classy. She wears the nice, high quality, and even popular clothing. She takes a pride in looking good for her husband. She isn't going out the house with rollers on pajamas and house shoes. She doesn't look like who did it and nobody cares.

The scripture says,  "she wears FINE linen." (Lol fine linen ain't cheap). Fine linen is a luxury. Purple was a color that only certain people could afford! Let's face it she's high fashion! All that hard work she's putting in and all the money she's making in the previous scriptures, allows her to be able to afford nice clothes.  (SEE DAYS 4&5) And there is nothing wrong with it. She stays up late, wakes up early handling her business, and she likes to treat herself. Don't feel like you have to live a meager lifestyle (this is no where in the bible), but keep things in perspective.  She works hard, she gives to the needy, and she keeps God first. God has blessed her and she is a blessing to everyone she comes in contact with, so she doesn't need to feel guilty for splurging. She can confidently dress to impress with a gorgeous personality to match! 

Personal Message:

I used to struggle with feeling guilty for buying myself anything, even as a child! I would save up money for no reason. With my first $50 at 8 years old, I bought an amazing ally doll that I really wanted, but then I took it back to toys r us and got my money back. Sometimes, I would turn down things that my parents would offer to buy me. I felt that when people are less fortunate than I was, then I should not have things that were too expensive. But the bible doesn't say you can not enjoy nice things. Money is the root of all sorts of evil, not ALL evil. People get greedy, they start idolizing money, they start stepping on people to get more, they hoard it and don't share it with anyone. But when you die, you can't take it with you. Don't put your trust in riches, but instead in God. I loved God and was content, when I was trying to figure out how we were gonna pay our bills, and I love God now that I have finally started my career. The moral is to be content wherever, God has you and don't feel guilty for spending. I don't have to feel guilty, if I've done what God has asked me to do!  In closing Share your money, give to those who are needy, don't close your hands when you see the needy coming. Give as God has given to you! Be thankful for each season and enjoy what God has blessed you with! 

The Virtuous Wife Series: Day 6: The Harvest Of The Virtuous Woman

Scripture 

"She extends a helping hand to the poor and opens her arms to the needy. She has no fear of winter for her household, for everyone has warm clothes". (Proverbs 31:20-21 NLT)

Be A Blessing

The virtuous woman cared for other people as well. She doesn't have the attitude of "as long as me and mine are good then I don't care about anyone else" 

She helps, when she is able to help. When God blesses her, she knows that is an opportunity to bless others.

Helping doesn't not only mean financially, but help can be given physically, emotionally and spiritually. You can give your time, advice, a listening ear, a hug, or whatever the individual may need. Jesus had a heart of compassion, always loving, healing, teaching and feeding people spiritually and with actual food. This is how we ought to be having a heart for people, not thinking of ourselves more highly than we ought. 

Help Comes In Many Ways

This marriage blog is a way of helping the needy, I am trying to help couples with the things I wish I'd known sooner or the things I learned along the way. I said, that to say you can literally use anything to extend a helping hand. Don't give for a pat on the back, give because you know it pleases God! Don't give reluctantly or under compulsion, give because it is in your heart! Try to be cognizant of others. Be intentional about being a blessing to someone else. 

Scripture

"Don’t be misled—you cannot mock the justice of God. You will always harvest what you plant. Those who live only to satisfy their own sinful nature will harvest decay and death from that sinful nature. But those who live to please the Spirit will harvest everlasting life from the Spirit. So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up." (Galatians 6:7-9 NLT)

Harvest Time 

The virtuous woman knows she will reap what she sows. In Proverbs 31:20, when the winter storms come literally and figuratively, she knows her family will still thrive. She knows she has been a blessing to others in their time of need, so God will bless her in her time of need. She doesn't need to worry, because she knows what she planted and knows it will be harvested. She prepared in the previous scriptures by never allowing her hands to be idle, by planning, by getting her business in order, by giving to the needy, by making clothes and knitting late into the night. Now it is time for her to see the fruits of her labor. She knew a storm was coming, but didn't fear. She did what she needed to do and she has full faith in God. She labored all year long knowing the winter was coming, she has nothing to worry about. 

Personal Message

My dad always told me growing up, "if you stay ready, you won't have to get ready". He was teaching me to always be prepared. He'd make us carry a jacket even if it were hot outside, and sometimes I'd have an attitude. But I remember being out late and the jacket coming in handy more often than not. He always told me to carry a small amount of cash. This came in handy, when there would be a hold on my card for whatever reason. It's like health insurance or car insurance. 

Don't Give Up

You may not fully know what you're preparing for or what lies ahead, but your preparation won't be in vain. God said in the Galatians scripture, "Not to get weary in doing good, for you will reap a blessing if you don't give up."  Don't you think that the Proverbs 31 woman was tired. I'm sure she wanted to give up and say you know what this is too much, I am not seeing the fruits of my labor what's the point. Instead of giving up, she gave more. She gave more time, more love, she stayed up later, and she worked harder knowing God keeps his promises. In verse 20 she begins to reap some of the harvest. All this to say, don't give up! You look around at other women doing things against the bible. Looking over there the grass may even appear greener, they look happy and it looks like everything is working out in their favor. But Satan is the master of deception, their grass may be green right now, but it will eventually turn brown. Satan wants you to look over there and give up on trying to do things the right way and adopt some of the negative behaviors. Don't give in, you will reap whatever you planted, good or bad!

Personal Message

I have planted good things in my marriage and I have planted bad things before. I have planted good things and turned to bad things,when I didn't think the good worked as well! I am a testimony as to you reap what you sow. I planted anger, attitude, irritability, name calling, defiance, cursing, and unforgiveness  in my first two years of my marriage and I reaped all that came with it. In the last two years, I've been planting love, patience, kindness, compassion, forgiveness, and gentleness and now I am harvesting all the good I have planted. Think about an argument where you started off trying to do be kind and not get angry, but when you see that the other person isn't deescalating quickly enough, you decide if you can't beat them join them. Honestly how do those arguments turn out? So if you take that approach in marriage, how do you think it will turn out? As the new year begins change some of your negative ways and watch what you begin to harvest!

Prayer

God you care for the needy, so I know I am called to care for the needy! Thank you for blessing me and constantly supplying all my wants and needs. God help me to be better and help me to think about what I am planting. Thanks for being not only loving but for being just. As you work on me, God I ask that you make my man into who you want him to be. I love you! 

Amen 

The Virtuous Woman Series: Day 5: A Business Woman

A Business Woman

"She goes to inspect a field and buys it; with her earnings she plants a vineyard. She is energetic and strong, a hard worker. She makes sure her dealings are profitable; her lamp burns late into the night. Her hands are busy spinning thread, her fingers twisting fiber." (Proverbs 31:16-19 NLT)

Misconception 

I have read Proverbs 31 many times, but never really read it! For some reason, I must have just rushed past this part, not taking it all in. That is the beautiful thing about the bible, each time you read it, you get something new. This was ground breaking to me when I read it about year ago, because I always thought being a biblical wife meant cook and clean. (Which I really don't mind the cooking, but the cleaning lol Jesus isn't through with me yet lol) 

Many women write off their biblical roles , saying that it is too menial and domestic. Satan has once again made women feel disenchanted about fulfilling their marital duties. Some ladies think "I am not about to be anyones servant and I am too smart to be at home just cleaning and cooking." 

Correcting the Misconception 

Being a Christian in general is about being a servant of Christ. We need to stop buying into the negative picture satan is trying to paint. Jesus himself came to serve. So serving is a high honor. The bible tells us to serve each other. The husband serves the wife and the wife serves the husband. The husband doesn't necessarily serve the same way the wife does and vice versa. In the above scripture it shows how a virtuous woman can serve by being a smart and savvy business woman. A woman doesn't have to feel like she needs to only stay at home while her husband makes all the financial moves. 

Well Rounded

This woman bought property with her own "earnings"and used it to make more money. She first went to inspect the field, so she was knowledgable and knew what to look for. She wasn't going to make a hasty unwise decision. She is intentional on doing the research to make sure her investments are lucrative. That means she didn't just wake up and say I'm gonna go invest in something. She planned, she researched, she became informed and made a well thought out decision. On one of the previous lessons the scripture said "her husband has full confidence in her" this is a reason why her husband can trust her. He knows she is methodical and will take care of business. He knows she will make a profit and add to the household and He knows who she serves. 

This woman is phenomenal, because after all that she stays up late tying up loose ends. She is a true business woman, she buys property, grows a vineyard, later in Proverbs 31:22a,24 she makes sashes, bed spreads, and other clothing items to sell. She isn't playing about her money. She knows how to make it and keep it.

Don't buy into the trick that Christ Like Women can't do anything. Women have free will, just like men, but everything should be done to the glory of God. You might not necessarily buy property, but whatever you decide to do make sure you are knowledgeable and you take the time to do the research. Make sure your dealings are lucrative.

Personal Message

I have always been good with money. I don't invest (yet), but I do love to save money. I am always looking for a deal or a coupon. I enjoy working and I enjoy staying home, really I don't mind either. But wherever I'm at, I try to be faithful with the small things now, and I know God will trust me with the big things later. 

Strengthened by Christ

A virtuous woman is strong mentally, physically, and spiritually. She knows her strength comes from Christ, and in her own strength it is impossible. Philipians 4:13 

Mentally Strong 

She is mentally strong from taking every thought captive 2 Corinthians 10:5 . She knows that negative thoughts give birth to negative actions. 

Spiritually Strong

She is spiritually strong by reading God's word and being in prayer. She understands that is God's communication with us and prayer is our communication with him. 

Physically Strong 

She is physically strong, because she  takes proper care of herself and knows when she needs to take a step back to prevent a burn out. She wants to make sure she has enough energy for her husband and family. She purposely takes time for herself to relax and renew.  (I personally renew by cooking, or reading. When I'm extremely burnt out I listen to worship music and meditate on a scripture all day)

Prayer

God, 

Today and everyday I want to trust you to guide and direct me. Help me not to make plans without including you. Help me to remember where my strength can be renewed when I begin to feel burnt out. Help me to be better steward over my finances and add value financially to my family. 

Amen

Virtuous Wife Series: Day 4: Woman With A Plan

"She finds wool and flax and busily spins it. She is like a merchant’s ship, bringing her food from afar." (Proverbs 31:13-14 NLT)

Thrifty Woman

This scripture shows us that a virtuous woman is thrifty. She is resourceful. She does what is necessary for her family's well being. A virtuous wife is determined to make sure her family is well taken care of. A merchant ships purpose is to bring goods for OTHERS. Comparing a virtuous woman to a merchant ship signifies that the she is unselfish and sacrificial. She cares for and loves her family and will do what she needs to  to keep her family afloat. Does your families needs come before your own? 

"She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day’s work for her servant girls. "(Proverbs 31:15 NLT)

Selfless Woman

The virtuous woman does not sleep all day, when she knows she has business to handle. Even early in the morning, she is selfless enough to prepare breakfast for her family. When she has other things to do or had other things she could do, she is still concerned with her family. This scripture is so interesting to me. My mom told me that my great grandma had 13 kids, but would get up at 4 am in the morning and doc my great grandfather a hot breakfast before he went to work every single day. Now that is love. Lol because our human nature wants to be like oh heck no, I run around after our 13 kids all day and now I have to get up and slave over a stove half sleep to fix you breakfast. I didn't know my great grandma, but I'm convinced she was a virtuous woman. She sacrificed her sleep, and probably her feelings to get up in the morning to please her husband. She was willing to sacrifice something for his happiness. I'm sure her husband loved her and respected her for getting up every morning to do a selfless act. What do you sacrifice for your husband? Is it Sleep like my great grandma, missing your show to watch the game with him, your pride bc you know "winning" this argument may deflate him? 

Personal Message

Marriage is about pleasing the other person and sacrificing for them. You should be more concerned about giving more than you are taking from your marriage. Honestly, if you're not willing to sacrifice anything, then you shouldn't get married. Jesus literally sacrificed his life for his bride (the church). We should always look to Jesus as our perfect example. 

Industrious Woman

This scripture also shows us that a virtuous woman isn't lazy!  She knows that too much sleep leads to poverty. Get up and handle your business. Stop putting it off until tomorrow, because you never know what tomorrow may hold. 

"But you, lazybones, how long will you sleep? When will you wake up? A little extra sleep, a little more slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest— then poverty will pounce on you like a bandit; scarcity will attack you like an armed robber." (Proverbs 6:9-11 NLT)

Before we were Christians, my dad made all my siblings and I wake up at 6am everyday. It didn't matter if it was the summer or a weekend. I didn't appreciate it then lol. But, I literally carried that into my adult years. The bible associates sleeping all day with laziness, just as my dad did. Up until recently, I still did not sleep past 8am. But now I work graveyard so it's different. The bible gives us direction on everything. You can choose to ignore it and sleep all day,everyday. But you can't be surprised if you don't see yourself beginning to progress, or find yourself in poverty.

"Good planning and hard work lead to prosperity, but hasty shortcuts lead to poverty." (Proverbs 21:5 NLT)

Woman with Foresight

She woke up with a plan. She is not just wandering aimlessly through life. She doesn't just lunge into action without thinking and without a plan. She is analytical and weighs her options. The virtuous woman isn't into shortcuts, but instead is into good planning. She knows that all her plans will fail if she doesn't commit them to the Lord. The virtuous woman knows what leads to poverty and avoids those things. She wants what best for her family spiritually, mentally, physically, and even financially. She doesn't just have the desire, she takes the appropriate steps to make her desires a reality. 

Change

If you know you sleep too much, purposely cut your sleep time short and do something that you've been procrastinating on (homework, cleaning, paying bills, whatever). Pray everyday and ask God to direct your day. 

Prayer

God, Please forgive me for being lazy at times. I pray you also forgive me for not including you in my plans at times. God I will trust you to direct my path. Help me to think of my family before myself. Thank you for loving me. 

Amen

The Virtuous Wife Series: Day 3: A Woman of Value

Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. (Proverbs 31:11-12 NIV) 

Beneficial

The husband of a virtuous woman trust her 100%. He feels like he isn't missing anything that will benefit him. She greatly enriches his life. His wife benefits him spiritually, emotionally, and physically. She isn't a burden and he knows he wouldn't be better off without her. 

In Genesis 2. God made Eve as a helpmeet to Adam. God saw it was not good for Adam to be alone. Basically, the brother needed help. (Lol) and every woman and man can attest to that. My husband tells me every now and then that if God wouldn't have sent me to him, he doesn't know where he'd be. This tells me two things that he values me and I add value to his life. I add to his life, not only on a grand scale, but on small scale. He confirms this when he sends me a picture of his burnt food while I'm at work and says I can never make it like you.  You want your man to say things like this, so you know you are doing your job right. 

He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord. (Proverbs 18:22 NIV)

How do you enrich your mans life? Or do you badger him and bring him down? Would he be better off without you? Can he say you are a good thing? 

A husband can have confidence in his wife when she enriches his life . He trusts her and her abilities as wife. He isn't insecure and trying to guess what her next move is going to be. He doesn't have to second guess her motives.  

His Welfare 

A good wife is always concerned about the welfare of her husband. She approaches him in love, even in difficult situations. She treats him the way God wants him to be treated. Even when she feels he deserves evil, she is still good to him. A good wife doesn't hurt her husband, instead she loves him, encourages him, builds him and doesn't break him down. 

A Woman's Influence

A woman has a lot of influence over her man.  Think of Adam and Eve and how eve convinced her husband to partake in the fruit with her. She has the ability to make him or break him. He values her opinion over anyone else's. He needs his ego stroked and wants to feel needed and important. When you talk down to him and undermine his authority, then you are essentially deflating him. When you are angry it is much easier to go to your fleshly desires, sin, seek revenge, and go tit for tat. But as a new creature in Christ, your new default should be to love. 

"Instead, clothe yourself with the presence of the Lord Jesus Christ. And don’t let yourself think about ways to indulge your evil desires."(Romans 13:14 NLT) 

Stop playing your evil responses in your head. Stop wallowing in how he upset you and how you really want to get him back. Doing these things will only cause you to act out on your desires. It's way easier said than done. But you have a choice and God says, 

"The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure." (1 Corinthians 10:13 NLT)

 

Personal Message

Every Time you choose to sin, you are choosing Satan. You are letting Satan get the victory over your relationship. He is on a mission to tear you apart, one argument at a time. He wants you to keep undermining your husband. He wants you to seek revenge when your husband upsets you. He wants you to go to bed angry and not talking, so your mind and his mind can wander. It is bigger than us. But God has equipped us with the tools to overcome. Our assignment is to  Think before we act! Ask ourselves is this helpful? Is it necessary to say? Is it kind to say? And if it doesn't fit the criteria then throw it out! 

Pray this today!

God, I pray that you convict me when I'm out of line. Help me to be a good wife, always bringing my husband good and not harm. God continue you to guide me where you want me to be. As you transform me, I ask that you transform my husband into who you want him to be!

Amen